It’s was early morning and it started with my dad’s concern on why I am yet single, to his understanding and calculation I am too lazy and overweight, and too carefree for a guy to fall head over heels in love with me…Or even accept me in an arrange marriage.
What started as a concerned turned in to a discussion and then an argument followed by me feeling hurt, depressed,pressurized, and embarrassed and he feeling sorry.
This conversation shouldn’t have happened; but if it had not I wouldn’t have been writing this post.
My father loves me a lot and is deeply concerned, he wants me to get settle soon and his concern sometime gets him frustrated. Such situations are not isolated, everyday thousands of girls go through this pressure and many suffer body shaming just because they don’t fit in the ideal body size of a not so ideal man. Marriage become a problem and parents and relatives try to solve it by manipulating, forcing you to subtract weight, add beauty and end up with a great figure if possible overnight.
Not to miss pointing out that I’m not obese I may be overweight by 7-8kg but the fact remains I’m FAT.
It takes a lot of courage to call oneself Fat it’s the “f” word no one ones wants to hear or be associated with. Fat is ugly and fat is lazy, fat is undesirable and fat is a curse. The social tags are too harsh but acceptance is the way thus I’m the fat Indian chick trying to find myself in this skinny world.
Just a thought: what if since childhood I was taught how not be fat, than being taught how to be kind, honest,hard-working and all those moral science values which have no value today..May be I would have been married by now….because at the end of the day JO DEKHTA HAI WOHI BIKTA HAI!!
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